A LETTER TO SINGLE SISTERS

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The crave to be united with a believing brother has led many into toxic marriage. Not that marrying a believer is wrong NO, afterall the bible clearly stated that we should not be unequally yoked. But there are intricate things every believer should look out for in the life of any man who comes to ask for their hand in marriage.


Marriage is a very defining element in the life of every individual and it is a determinant whether you'll make heaven or not. Its also a determinant of your life long peace on Earth.


The devil has really sown tars and has made us confused over what we're not supposed to be confused about. He has made sure that many are ignorant of what is important and make them busy with the less important.


Christ gave gifts to men before leaving because there was a need to be filled up in the body of Christ. 

He gave gifts of pastor, prophets, evangelists some teachers,some apostles. All these were for the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry and for the edifying of the body of Christ.


There is a difference between the gift of the Spirit and the fruit of the Spirit.


The fruit of the spirit  include joy, love, peace, patience, long-suffering, meekness, temperance, goodness, faith and gentleness. 
They come as a result of a sincere and daily work with God. These are what brings perfectness of Christ in a believer. They are worked out according to the power at work in us. It can be lost when one loses fellowship with the Holy ghost. And it is character related.


But, the gift of the Spirit, when it comes on a man it stays. That's why the bible says its without repentance. It comes as a result of a supernatural manifestation and the work of the Holy Spirit. It is not character related.


Now sisters, when looking out for who to marry, don't look out for the gift. Look out for the fruit.
That he can rightly divide the word or draw down rhema does not mean he can rightly be emotionally sensitive to you or have solid character that can build a home.
My beloved, ministry is not pulpit but the life you live. 

I want to be a pastor's wife, i want to be a pastor's wife, have you checked his life behind the pulpit? Or do you think all those charismatic vibes he makes on the pulpit is the same he makes when he is not on pulpit?

Some of these men are lions behind the pulpit. That he is soft spoken on the altar does not mean that is how he is. Sisters wisen up.


No matter how heavy the prophetic mantle is on him, he might still not be kind in the home.


The right thing to look out for is the fruit of the spirit. Any man who possess the fruit of the spirit can be the best husband you can have. 


Gifts deceive alot and the devil has really lead many sisters into toxic marriage because of these gifts manifested in a man. 


Ths gift combined with the fruit is a very perfect combination. Any man who has allowed the Holy Spirit to really work on him and crumble his will can bring you peace in the home. Brokenness is what creates gentility in a man.


A man who cannot forgive should not be considered as a husband because marriage is the head quarter of all offences. He should be able to forgive and have patience too.


The fruit of the spirit makes a man complete. This is what every believing sister should look out for.


Many sisters have fallen into the hands of narcissistic brothers. Remember the church is a hospital, where various ailments are been cured . That he uses some religious language like "it is well", "God bless you", etc does not mean that he is standing right with God.


Pray,  listen well and confim seriously before saying"YES". Marriage is a life long  journey and should not be toyed with. It should be approached with all seriousness.


Let us all rise and be more vigilant in our choice of marriage. Because the devil our adversary is ever roaming about seeking whom he may devour.


Don't let the devil use you as practical for others to learn.


God bless you.


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©DIMMA C.

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