FAILURE DOES NOT DEFINE YOU

 We live in a world where many people are scrambling for definition. Some people engage in certain things just to obtain a definition for themselves. 

Many go to the extent of accepting what others say they are. And you know what, many people can be very demeaning that they will want to tell you falsehood about yourself and also want to force it into you, so you intentionally or unintentionally  pick it up as your reality. People and also  society wants to give you a definition. The society says if you go to school, your certificate defines you,  if you're married, you're defined by your marriage etc. I'm not saying these are bad in themselves, but I'm  trying to say that drawing your identity from these things should not be the right thing to do. Because these things don't define who you are.

  Human beings are social creatures. And as social creature, we need feedbacks in order to be sure of what we are doing.

Feedback is the output of what was put in. 

Like every other thing, feedback is part of being a social creature as humans.  Take for example, when a student is being taught in class, a time will come when the teacher will put up an exam so as to get feedback from the student to know how well he or she understood the topic that was taught. 

This also applies to life, life is also a school where you get feedback of whatever you've put out. And when you get these feedbacks, your response towards it matters alot. 

Failure is associated with emotion. It is something that we feel when we do not act up to expectation. But the very interesting thing here is that failure doesn't define who you are. I'm saying this because many tend to pick up their identity based on what has happened to them or the circumstances surrounding them. This is a very wrong way to choose your identity. Circumstances of life does not define you. Even your success does not define you because if that which you succeed in is taken away from you what will be your lot? Where will you draw your strength from, how will you see yourself?

Failure should not define you because it's only but for a moment. It's an event that took place and must pass away. 

Your mistakes don't define you. As humans, you are prone to mistake. God created humans as free moral agents. He gave us the power to choose. If God wanted you to be perfect He wouldn't have made you unique and give you power to choose. Although, God as a loving Father has told you to choose life. But if along the line you make a mistake by making the wrong choice, it's very important that as soon as you've acknowledged and ask forgiveness, God automatically cleanses you and gives you a brand new life to live again. 

Remember, the event around you does not define you. It is the circumstances that is bad not you. You're just a human experiencing what is happening around you, that does not mean  you are  your circumstances. You are not your  failure, neither are you your past.

 Victory and defeat are events. When you experience any of them, it's always important not to relax, but to brace up for the next challenge. Most times, many tend to loose their  strength and vision for their life  when they fail. They start seeing themselves as failure. They begin to feel like all hope is lost. Infact to make things worse, they keep company with those who are expert in the use of negative and insulting words. Note that as long as you continue to listen to  negative words, you'll subconsciously embrace negativity and take it as your life.

 The amazing thing is that you can learn from your failure and mistake. This will enable you  know what to do the next time you encounter such circumstances. Also, failure can help you teach or counsel  others out of experience. Therefore, don't beat yourself up when you fail, take it as part of life and brace up to the challenge that lies ahead. Never remain where you are, keep growing and adding value to yourself.  Ensure you're in the right circle that keep encouraging you to keep pushing.

 You might have written an exam several times and you  seem not to be scaling through, or you've been into several relationships that did not work out, or you've applied for jobs and no company has called you yet, or you've been into several businesses and they failed. Never give up, keep trusting God in prayers and keep doing your best in no distant time, you'll see the light.

 

Note: Even if you loose, you are not a looser. Even if you fail you are not a failure. 

Your identity should be drawn from who God says you are. God's Word is authentic and it is the perfect manual for anyone who is confused about his or her identity. Know who you are in Christ and you'll be free from confusion.

Remember once again, failure does not define you.

God bless you.

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